This is a rough movie to watch, but it is a story that needs to be told. In the age of social media, absentee parents (not physically/emotionally or just not emotionally). It asks the question Who or What is raising your children when you are not?. As parents, we need to be there as the cornerstone of the child’s upbringing.
The fact that people are angry about the Sexualization of children is the shock factor of this movie. Where do little girls learn the infantilization of women from? The flirtation “daddy” movies and other nods that women go on Social Media to Break the internet are twerking, in their underwear, kissy faces, and other things that are receiving a massive amount of likes. In the age of an 11-year-old who is discovering oneself and wants to be liked by society (wanting to fit in) sees these women doing these things that society is heralding as sexy but seen in the eyes of a child as “Likes” will therefor imitate without guidance. Although Cringeworthy to see the young girls dancing in such a provocative manner, the director hit it out of the park with her message.
The Youtuber Geeks + Games asked the question, “Why can’t the girls be at least 18?” The reason why because it would have been seen as sexy for legal aged “women” to do this. Isn’t sexy for a woman to parade around on the ground like a toddler while throwing her vajajay in your face than where will the younger girls think this is something to get the desired attention. An article from TMZ (Click Here) article highlights an MMA fighter who is going viral after a massive knockout and twerking videos. One of the videos is the same dance movies provided by the children in the movie. Where did they learn it from?. By making them the age they are showing the dichotomy of the pull of and dangers of trying so desperately to be accepted because the extreme of each is both oppressive. The strength to chose one’s path is the key to any development.
Although the movie is not rewatchable it is a story that needs to be told. The “sexy” dancing of the children brings these points to life:
- There are no days off for parents. Even when you are suffering, one must find a way to still be that support and guide for the children brought into this world.
- Children still need to be taught. even when they have reached critical milestones. Don’t talk to your children but with the children.
- Small issues to adults are the children’s entire world.
- Parents still need to govern what the children are watching and doing but learn that a little acceptance goes a long way
It was a story that needed to be told and is one that will sit with you. The shock of the dancing is counter-acted with the booing of the parents and covering of the children’s eyes in the crowd. Another great moment, when Imam told the mother that nothing was wrong with her daughter and she is being affected by the house and when she returned home after the dance competition her mother welcomed her while “Auntie” scolded her. Also, another great moment when she was being bullied but the older dance crew, they sheltered her. I will end with this. Being too much of one way is very much being oppressed and controlled but you are giving into it. Finding that middle ground, the sweet spot, will make you much happier in life which is shown in the ending of her skipping rope. For a grown woman, no person should tell you how to be. If you want to twerk or fight, that is lovely. Parents, if you do not want you 11 year old twerking, then watch and screen what they are seeing which then provides them the opportunity to choose that later in life when they are not in your control.
Dellatto, M. (2020). Netflix’s ‘Cuties’ slammed for ‘sexualizing’ little girls. NY Post. https://nypost.com/2020/08/20/netflixs-cuties-slammed-for-explicitly-sexualizing-little-girls/
Geeks + Gamers. (August 2020). Netflix Movie “Cuties”: Sick, Disgusting and Completely Unacceptable. Retrieved from https://youtu.be/ayBGwYhCM_g
TMZ.com (October 18, 2020). MMA’S valerie loureda reality sho offer and modeling gigs… After violent ko, twerking vids. https://www.tmz.com/2020/10/18/valerie-loureda-bellator-mma-fighter-career-exploded-after-twerk-video/